Have you struggled with loss and grief in your life? Know that when you are going through a new loss, the feelings of fear, sadness and anger from all of your past experiences come rushing in. Might you consider that SADNESS or ANGER or FEAR is your “go-to” emotion or your “vein of gold” to all your other human feelings? By taking the time to process, allow and ultimately accept ALL of your feelings, you can learn to embrace SADNESS, ANGER OR FEAR as a friend. Your feelings make you human and vulnerable. You can learn to move through emotions in order to choose your overall state of being.
Everything happens at once. While I was going through a divorce, my mother died. I had been taking care of her and when she passed, I felt so empty. Wendy helped me to understand that everything I was going through was OK. She supported me, taught me what I needed to know and encouraged me to take my time to get through it. -Charlotte M.
Caring for aging parents
Children leaving home
Unreachable goal or dream
Health issues such as cancer
Falling out with a friend
Passing into a new stage of life
Job loss, whether your choice or not
It is the emotional, spiritual, physical, social and psychological response to loss. You may feel that the depth of your feelings will swallow you up and that you will never recover. We all have filters and cultural messages that define how we “should” behave while grieving. “Crying is a sign of weakness”; “Stay busy and the feelings will eventually go away”; or “Be strong”.
The only way to the other side of grief is to allow yourself to move through it. Your journey is personal and unique. Seeking support through coaching can help you to allow your feelings, connect with yourself, others and your faith, identify and develop coping skills, and practice patience and compassion with yourself. Feeling better can take weeks, months or years, depending on the individual and on the nature of the loss. Know that you do not have to be alone.
Loss and the grief process are natural parts of life. Gentleness and kindness with yourself and others are essential. Over time, your emotions become less intense and immobilizing. At different points in the process, you will be able to put your toe in the great ocean of life. Step by step, and by going through your process, you can reenter your life as you have known it and create your future coming from a deeper, more human YOU.
I have benefited and grown more from this program and my relationship with Wendy than I ever did in 15 years of medication, therapy and hospitalizations.
Wendy always knows the right questions to ask. Over and over she has helped me get clear about what is really important and what steps I can take to reach my goals. She has saved my life.
I really feel that Wendy is present with me in our sessions. I love that she has been an ‘action’ person to me.
Everything happens at once. While I was going through a divorce, my mother died. I had been taking care of her and when she passed, I felt so empty. Wendy helped me to understand that everything I was going through was OK. She supported me, taught me what I needed to know and encouraged me to take my time to get through it.
I have never been so scared as when my doctor told me I had breast cancer. Wendy helped me get through the toughest times and make the right decisions for me. I really got how important ‘present moment’ is. Wendy encouraged me to let people in and I had the best support from friends, family and my community. I am so grateful.
Wendy’s telephone series on body image gave me the support and confidence I needed to look at my body in the mirror with love and compassion. Thank you, Wendy!
I was always hesitant to talk about the ‘crazy” thoughts rolling through my head about my body and food, until I met Wendy. Wendy gets it!
Wendy is helping me find myself, find my way, and become who I am meant to be.
Right from the first time I talked to Wendy, she told me that the anxiety in the pit of my stomach was fear. I really got that fear is just a feeling that I can manage. Once I could put that fear in its place, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. That horrible feeling didn’t have to consume me anymore. I don’t know how to thank you enough, Wendy.
Wendy Perkins combines humility, compassion and wisdom in her style of coaching. Actually, it’s much more than a style. It’s an authentic way of presenting herself, which makes me feel engaged where I am, loved as I am, and invited to grow into my possibilities.